Post by Rain San Martin
Ask yourself why you do the things you do.
You may notice that you have taken on habits and established routines based primarily on other peoples expectations. This is the biggest area in our life we have the ability to control. We’ve heard of the term discretionary income, what about discretionary time? We often pack our schedules to the brim, making us appear extremely busy, yet as said by Anthony Robbins,
“Most people fail in life because they major in minor things.”
Societies expectations of our routines can lead to time killers. Here are some expectations that if gone unchecked, can take you away from your lifetime goals:
- Going to parties or clubs every Friday & Saturday night
- Signing up your kids for more than one activity at a time
- Checking Facebook, email or Twitter too often
- Driving to the grocery store every time you run out of an ingredient rather than creativity looking for a substitute recipe or meal
- Excessive volunteer work (unless this is your primary calling in life)
Below are a few questions that you should consider asking yourself from time to time. Perhaps you are motivated by embarrassment, the fear of being judged, or you simply excepted this way of life without giving it much thought:
Why do I dress this way?
Why is my home cluttered?
Often we assume that because we have been given a physical gift we must hold on to it throughout our lifetime. Do you have a habit of making impulse buys every time you visit the outdoor mall? Take a moment to look at your surrounding with new eyes, would you like your home to feel more like a tropical resort or bed and breakfast?
Why do I always eat lunch at my desk in the office?
“I want to appear like I’m serious about my work!”, you say. When it’s time to work, give it your all, yet when brakes arrive use the time to go on a walk or work on your long term dreams. Perhaps you can write ideas in your laptop or hardbound journal. Once you have clarified expectations others will no longer expect you to eat at your desk during your breaks.
Why did I choose this career path?
Was it to make lots of money, a hot job at the moment or something you fell into? Stop and read 48 Days to the Work You Love or What Color is Your Parachute to help you discover your true vocation. Having a job to “pay the bills” is noble indeed, yet make sure you’re heading in the direction of your dream job.
Why do I spend every weekend going to parties or “kicking it” for hours on end with buddies?
If you have a day job, this activity can be robbing you of your time spent toward honing your craft. As a teen or young adult, this lifestyle is even more tempting. Remember the Tortoise and the Hare, while the hare is squandering his time you can be making headway toward the goal line.
Sculpt Your Life-Overcome Tough Circumstances
We may have temporary circumstances that are unpleasant. What matters is that we have our focus on the outcome that we want to achieve.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, whohave been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
Play the cards you’re dealt to maximize your possibilities. Choose your own adventure, and express your life as an artform, because you have the power to design your life.